From the bestselling author, Eckhart Tolle:
I observe that when two ducks get into a fight, which never last long, they will separate and float off in opposite directions. Then each duck will flap its wings vigorously a few times, thus releasing the surplus energy that built up during the fight. After they flap their wings, they float on peacefully, as if nothing had ever happen.
Two Zen monks, Tanzan and Ekido, were walking along a country road that had become extremely muddy after heavy rains. Near a village, they came upon a young woman who was trying to cross the road, but the mud was so deep it would have ruined the silk kimono she was wearing. Tanzan at once pick her up and carried her to the other side.
The monks walked on in silence. Five hours later, as they were approaching the lodging temple, Ekido couldn't restrain himself any longer.
"Why did you carry that girl across the road?" He asked. "We monks are not supposed to do things like that."
"I put the girl down hours ago," said Tanzan. "Are you still carrying her?"
Let's not debate on the issue whether a monk should carry a young girl or not.
It's about our inability to let go of the past. What had happened in the past will become our memories. It makes us who we are and we should be thankful that we haven't lost our memory.
But when those memories are being played again and again like an old movie, burdening us, taking over our life, that we continue feeling sorry for ourselves, keep asking why? why.. then they have turned problematic. You are being caged emotionally and psychologically.
We should take lesson from the past, ask forgiveness for our wrongdoings, forgive others for hurting us, seek guidance from Him The Knower of All, Al-Aliim, and move on.
I've learned that as human we must understand that:
1. We are created only to serve and worship our Creator
2. We are here to fulfill our promise that we made in the realm of soul
3. We are here to be the 'khalifah' on earth
4. We have to face the tests, trials, challenges, we are here to be tested
5. We will be held accountable on the day of judgement for all our actions.
So, when we are being tested, be brave, stand up and face it like a warrior. Warriors do get hurt, fall down bleeding, but never surrender and giving up is not an option.
In the end, Eckhart Tolle say:
We can learn to break the habit of accumulating and perpetuating old emotion by flapping our wings, metaphorically speaking, and refrain from mentally dwelling on the past, regardless of whether something happened yesterday or thirty years ago.
Let go of the past, let go of the feeling, let go of the people...
Flap your wings and float away gracefully like a beautiful swan.